Sunday, February 1, 2015

It's just a ring.



When I was little there were 2 things that were implemented in my family.

#1. Be happy with what you have and be happy with out money.

#2. Marry someone who will better our gene.

I know what you're thinking "Okay, the first one seems reasonable, but whats the deal with the second one?"

My grandmother is from Guatemala and is SUPER old fashioned.

"May I use the restroom?"
"Sally and I played at the park."
"Please and thank you"

At first, When I was younger I thought this whole manners thing was such a waste of time but now I am so ever grateful for her words and teachings.

My grandmother carved "Making our gene better" in my brain and sure enough I implemented it in dating.

This isn't about dating at all actually. This is about a ring.

There is way too much hype and pressure on an engagement ring. Most guys are even willing to pay monthly on it and I'm sorry but that is unacceptable. You should be happy with the fact someone wants to be with you forever.

The sad thing is girls think there is some attachment to how much a guy/girl loves you, with the amount he/she spends on a ring. THERE IS NO ATTACHMENT. IT'S AN OBJECT, IT HOLDS NO VALUE!

Don't get me wrong, I think diamonds are beautiful. I think the rings are gorgeous but I also think puppies are cute and flowers are pretty.

I was visiting Scott at the camp he worked at for the weekend. I was only going to be there for 4 days, so Scott I'm sure felt pressured about that, but why deny the most perfect moment to ask? Under the most perfect sunset or under 100 shooting stars. Why not have that moment to remember forever? That seems so much more important to me.



"I meant what I said about spending the rest of my life with you"

Thinking back now Scott says "I felt pressured because I didn't have a ring for you yet. I didn't want to rush to walmart, and I wanted to get you something that was you."

I didn't even care. I was so stoked that someone wanted to spend all the rest of their time on this planet with me. I don't need a ring for that. I don't need a diamond ring for that.

I don't know a single person that doesn't have some sort of debt attached to their name. Starting off with new debt in a new life with someone else is not a cool thing. 

I'm happy for my newly engaged friends who have diamond rings, but I am also happy with a silver band. I hate that I have to explain myself in conversation. The way people stare like "that's it?"

Honestly people... It's just a ring. 

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